The monsters we're chasing away aren't just our children's nightmares—they're the inherited silences, the performed stoicism, the emotional distance that defined masculinity for generations.
I didn’t know how much I needed this until I read it. Not just for the father I lost or the sons I’m trying to raise but for the kind of presence I’ve fought to reclaim in myself. This is the kind of masculinity I want to believe in. Quiet. Unarmored. Human.
This was such a great read! Inspiring, emotional and even funny. I wish I would have dad like you are. I only knew toxic masculinity in worst form so this really warmed my heart 💚
"It doesn't apologise for taking up space; it just makes room for others to breathe too."
This is the point of all respectful relationship, to take space alongside others, not at the expense of others. All of that so wonderful and it gives me hope for menkind. We need equality when it comes to tears and showing emotions. We need emotional intelligence.
I’m from a generation that men only knew about IQ. EQ was preserve of the womanfolk, it was natural to them. It’s only recently I’ve become aware of and able to express my emotions. Thx for sharing this post. I will save it to read again to refresh on the “new masculinity”.
Oh my gosh I'm so so glad I read this. it's such a hearfelt post! growing up my dad never brought the toxic masculinity into my home. He was working abroad in Dubai so of course he did all his chores himself whenever he came back home (once or twice a year) he would always teach me to be strong. He always did the house chores and cooked us food and sat beside me teary eyed watching a movie. It's not until I started going on internet I realised this isn't the norm im always thankful for how he raised me. You are doing a damn good job raising your little ones too!!! Can't wait to read more of your works 🤍
I didn’t know how much I needed this until I read it. Not just for the father I lost or the sons I’m trying to raise but for the kind of presence I’ve fought to reclaim in myself. This is the kind of masculinity I want to believe in. Quiet. Unarmored. Human.
Thanks for such a heartfelt reflection 👊🏼
“It's not the absence of traditional male traits but their integration with emotional intelligence.” Exquisite and so stirringly moving!
This was such a great read! Inspiring, emotional and even funny. I wish I would have dad like you are. I only knew toxic masculinity in worst form so this really warmed my heart 💚
"It doesn't apologise for taking up space; it just makes room for others to breathe too."
This is the point of all respectful relationship, to take space alongside others, not at the expense of others. All of that so wonderful and it gives me hope for menkind. We need equality when it comes to tears and showing emotions. We need emotional intelligence.
Love this story through playlists and pancakes!
I’m from a generation that men only knew about IQ. EQ was preserve of the womanfolk, it was natural to them. It’s only recently I’ve become aware of and able to express my emotions. Thx for sharing this post. I will save it to read again to refresh on the “new masculinity”.
Oh my gosh I'm so so glad I read this. it's such a hearfelt post! growing up my dad never brought the toxic masculinity into my home. He was working abroad in Dubai so of course he did all his chores himself whenever he came back home (once or twice a year) he would always teach me to be strong. He always did the house chores and cooked us food and sat beside me teary eyed watching a movie. It's not until I started going on internet I realised this isn't the norm im always thankful for how he raised me. You are doing a damn good job raising your little ones too!!! Can't wait to read more of your works 🤍
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Thanks Fida, appreciate you taking time to read my latest piece :)
Beautiful post. Looking forward to listening to this song. Couldn’t agree with your insights more. Thank you
Thank you for sharing this. It's going to take a little while for my mind and heart to process, then try to find the song.
I’m still unable to read without welling up.
Thanks for your kind words 👊🏼